Feeling lonely in a relationship is no way to feel.

Your loneliness is starting to make your relationship feel more distressing than supportive.

You spend time together, but it doesn’t make you feel any more connected. You swing from blaming yourself for being unhappy to collecting evidence that it’s not your fault.

Here’s how couples counseling can help.

You each brought your own attachment history, values, communication styles, and connection strategies into this relationship. These all influence how you think, feel, act and react in your relationship. On the surface, an argument appears to be about something happening now. But it’s about so much more than it appears.

In couples counseling, we approach the relationship with respect and curiosity about how each partner contributes to the current dynamic. I will help you uncover what is happening below the surface of awareness.

You’ll develop a mutual understanding of the thoughts, emotions, and actions that have been contributing to your dynamic. Through the process of learning about yourselves and each other, you’ll deepen the connection between you. You’ll also learn to communicate in a way that supports a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.